Keep Healing ,even If They Don’t Understand

One of the most painful parts of healing is realizing that not everyone will understand your growth  not your family, not your friends, sometimes not even the people you love most.

You start to see life differently. You crave peace instead of noise, truth instead of pretending, and softness instead of survival.
And when you start living differently, some people start to question you.
They say, “You’ve changed.”
But you know in your heart  you’ve simply started healing.


It’s Not Distance — It’s Alignment

Healing doesn’t always look graceful.
Sometimes it looks like needing space, saying no, or walking away from what drains you.

You’re not rejecting your family or friends  you’re protecting your heart.
You’re learning to choose calm over chaos.
You’re learning to be loyal to your peace, not just to people.

To those who don’t understand healing, this might look like rebellion or pride.
But it’s not. It’s alignment  aligning your heart with Allah, your values, and your emotional wellbeing.

“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (Qur’an 13:28)

You are simply choosing rest after years of running on emotional survival.



When Loved Ones Take It Personally

It’s normal to feel guilty when those closest to you don’t understand your healing.
Family may call you distant. Friends may say you’ve become “different.”
But growth always changes your circle not because you stop loving them, but because you start loving yourself too.

Remember: your healing is not an attack on anyone.
It’s an act of mercy toward yourself.
And sometimes, Allah separates you for a while to help you see clearly who adds to your peace and who disturbs it.


How to Stay Kind Yet Firm

1. Communicate with gentleness.
   You don’t owe long explanations, but you can speak kindly.
   “I’m working on myself right now” is enough.

2. Set peaceful boundaries.
   You can say no and still be respectful.
   Boundaries are not walls  they are doors that open only to peace.

3. Don’t over-explain your healing.
   Not everyone is ready to understand. Keep doing the inner work quietly.
   Your peace will speak louder than any explanation ever could.

4. Keep your heart clean.
   Don’t let bitterness enter. Pray for those who misunderstand you  maybe one day they’ll seek healing too.

5. Stay connected to Allah.
   When others pull away, remember: you’re never alone.
   Allah sees the silent strength behind your boundaries and tears.


When Friendships Begin to Fade

Sometimes, the people you once shared everything with start to feel distant.
You no longer enjoy the same conversations or environments.
You feel disconnected  not out of arrogance, but because your soul is growing in a new direction.

This is a natural part of healing.
As you rise, not everyone will rise with you and that’s okay.
Pray for them, release them with peace, and keep walking your path.

“Perhaps Allah will bring about love between you and those whom you hold as enemies. And Allah is Powerful, and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.” (Qur’an 60:7)

Healing changes who and what you attract it replaces what drains you with what nourishes you.


Keep Choosing Peace

Your journey may feel lonely at times, but remember you’re not walking away from people; you’re walking toward peace.
Keep your heart soft, your intentions pure, and your boundaries firm.
The right people those meant for your healed version  will find you again in the light.

“Indeed, Allah does not let the reward of those who do good go to waste.” (Qur’an 9:120)


If You’re Ready to Heal

If you’re struggling with family expectations or painful friendships, you don’t have to navigate it alone.
In my Soulful Healing 1:1 Program, I help you learn emotional balance, set loving boundaries, and find peace all rooted in faith and self-awareness.

Visit fatimaabdullahi.com to begin your healing journey.
You deserve peace  even if others don’t understand how you found it.

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